Relationship-smart women | reconnecting in intimacy

Relationship-smart women want to learn how to transform their intimate relationships. We feel frustrated, disconnected and lack-lustre, but we are done with blaming our partners. We are ready to do our bit to make things better so that we feel more connected, more alive and more truly ourselves. With relationship coach Nicole Mathieson
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May 28, 2017

My guest this week is my friend and client Marianne Buchanan. Over the past 3 years. I have watched Marianne move from attracting relationships that were manipulative and at times violent to a mutual attraction that is beautiful and nurturing. Her relationship attractor field has up-levelled so efficiently and effectively that I couldn’t wait to pick her brains and find out how she did it, and so gracefully.
We talk about:
+ Moving from a religious, traditional marriage – to dating women
+ Healing the relationship with her mother
+ Relationship red flags – what to look for
+ The unspoken and unexpected occurrence of violence in lesbian relationships
+ Marianne’s huge losses of 2016 and how her grief now inspires her and helps her put relationships in perspective
+ The unending benefits of caring for self

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May 15, 2017

Bryan Reeves refers to himself as the relationship insight ninja and after our chat – I would have to agree with him. Bryan was raised predominantly by strong women, who infused his world with vision and service and left him with a deep reverence for the capacity of women and what they bring to the world. Yet this, for most of Bryan’s adult life did not translate into relationship success. His last 6 years have been committed to exploring his ignorance and searching for the answer to “Why do my girlfriends get so pissed off at me?”. In his search he has had to challenge his approach, in particular his response to dealing with emotions.
Bryan also shares with us:
+ Why boundaries are so important to create the safe container within which we can thrive
+ The three stages of relationship and how we can move out of co-dependency and into inter-dependency
+ How to bring out the best in our men
+ What men really find attractive in women and how we can bring more of it
+ The masculine myth as aposed to the feminine myth and why they really aren’t working for us
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Apr 30, 2017

Today's episode of Unbreakable is a little different. I felt the need to talk about the shift in direction for Unbreakable - a direction towards exploring love, intimacy and relationships. To do this, I have invited back my podcast expert friend, Alana Helbig from Untangled.
Alana helps me explore why I believe that as women we need more practical support as we manage the epic, soulful, evolutionary experience that our relationships offer us.

I also share;
- the big crisis / expansion points that have shifted my relationship
-My theory on intimacy and how it triggers us and why this is so often mistaken for us being with the wrong partner
-How marriage as an institution is evolving and changing with the times
-How relationships are like life and death - they don't last forever so we must treasure what we have
-how honesty seems to work and has never let me down

Enjoy xN

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Apr 16, 2017

In this episode of Unbreakable I talk to my beloved Kundalini yoga teacher Sirgun Lindsay- German.

Once a week I show up on my mat in front of Sirgun as she inspires me to push through an entire cycle of mental anguish , physical pain, resistance and surrender and if I am lucky – break through. As we discuss in this interview, kundalini is preparation for life in general and in particular, marriage. Our intimate realtionship are not always going to feel wonderful and expansive – we are not always going to be aligned and connected, we may even be filled with hate and anger at times – but things cycle and process through. If we stick with it we break through. Sirgun has broken through many things – from her reflex to leave when things got tough, to her neediness for love. She finds herself now 17 years into her marriage, with a cheeky rekindling of her love affair with her husband.

Sirgun shares with us:
+ How Kundalini helped her find herself as a new wife and mother
+ Why her children are no longer her priority – her relationship with her husband is
+ Why we can get so triggered by the masculine sun energy and how to love it instead
+ The importance of embracing our feminine moon energy
+ How being passive aggressive made her PMS  much worse
+ Her commitment to loving the one she’s with

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Apr 3, 2017
Imagine giving your partner total freedom - to the point that you can be in the same room with them while they are connecting intimately with another. How would you respond? Instead of going into a jealous rage, like most of us, my guest this week Rachel Rickards, channels that energy of jealousy into her own expansion. Rachel and her partner are polyamorous, meaning they have an open relationship. As a monogamous woman, speaking with Rachel really blew my mind. I really feel that there is a lot here for us more conventional relators to be inspired by.
Rachel also shared:
+ What she does to move through the energy of jealousy
+ The sticky belief of "I do not belong" and how she found her place in the world
+ The dance between freedom and control - she swears she is actually a control freak!
+ The connecting practice of belly to belly and how it works to calm her nervous system
+ The difficult challenges of polyamory and why she still chooses it
+ We talk about intimacy and what it truly means to be intimate with another
+ And finally I ask Rachel her advice for us monogamous folk on how to keep our relationships alive
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Mar 20, 2017

A few years back Cassie Mendoza-Jones put her heart, soul, time and money into a big work project. This project came to her easily and felt effortless and joyful. It felt like she was in total alignment, so you can imagine how devastating it was for her when the project did not achieve the success she was hoping for.

In fact this so called failure had her down. Losing faith in herself, her intuition and the universe she was forced to go deeply into her own healing. In this experience she could see how hard she was on herself- how controlling she was of her life and how easy it was for her to get stuck in the “doing” rather than the “being”.

Cassie also shares with us:
+  Why showing up and doing the inner work is much more than just “doing the work”
+  How she has had to redefine goal setting and success so that she is less controlling and more allowing
+  Why allowing things to be as they are, leaves space for things to be even better than you could possibly imagine
+  Why it was just so hard for her to forgive herself and how a health crisis forced her to really go there
+  How her mother first initiated her intuition at a toy shop and how she keeps this alive these days with automatic writing

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Mar 5, 2017

Sarah Durham Wilson has had her fair share of moments on the bathroom floor, including one years ago that initiated a full kundalini awakening and her spiritual path into Do it girl.
At the time of this interview, Sarah was there again, in the dark. Darkness initiated, amongst other things, by the loss of her beloved fur baby and navigating motherhood alone.
Sarah doubted whether she could be on a show called Unbreakable whilst feeling so broken, but this is precisely what I love about this episode. She is in it, feeling it all, stripped back to nothing and opening up to us about the experience - the pain, the teachings and the richness. And even there, deep in it, she is able to trust her own unbreakable spirit.
As is always the case in any conversation with Sarah, this interview is laced with mythology, mysticism and imagery that brings her words to life and transports us to worlds and possibilities beyond our own.
Sarah also shares with us:
+ How being in the dark does not mean being in agony
+ The journey of Innana and why stripping back to nothing can be so full of richness
+ The hard learned lesson that nobody is coming to save us - we have to save ourselves
+ The epic journey from maiden to mother to crone and where she is at right now
+ Where she goes to get her guidance in moments of fear - think mystical and magical!
+ Why she is ready for battle and suited up & how activism is no longer a choice

Feb 20, 2017
Libido, motherhood and tending our own fires

"My libidinous energy is fed when I am connecting with women, my partner
writing or doing something delicious. Giving myself permission to own that this is how my libido works"

Lauren White gives us permission. Permission to tend to the things that we love and trust that the energy of that flows into every part of our life....She says that it is one and the same as our sexuality and that lagging libido is not just about the bedroom. She also gives us permission to change and be fluid. Because, let's face it, that is what it is to be feminine. This interview felt like a huge relief to me. Yes. Thank you. I do not need to feel bad about these things. They are the essence of femininism and the sparks for change that we need to see in the world.

Lauren also shares:
+ The libido crash and crazy hormones that made 2016 her bathroom floor year
+ Mother guilt - as she asks herself "Why aren't I like those other mums wanting to just spend time with my kids?"
+ How keeping her sexual flame alive is not a job segregated off into the bedroom
+ The best sex advice you could ever get - and her reason for not actually giving sex tips
+ How connecting with women is where she finds her inspiration, guidance and her reason for being
+ How marriage is changing and becocming less restrained and inflexible
+ And finally why speaking up is her biggest evolutionary challenge at the moment, and why it is so important for women

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Feb 6, 2017

In early 2016, Kimberley Kevan and her family were in the throes of a potential financial crisis. They were at a point where a miracle was needed. In this episode Kimmy and I talk about how she found the capacity to stay in her heart and trust her knowing that everything was going to be okay despite what her reality was indicating. In essence this chat comes back again and again to our own power to create an abundant life by trusting our feelings and getting beyond the limitations of the tangible.

Kimmy also shares with us:
+ The transformational support available from loved ones who have passed on
+ The gift in having your back up against the wall and nothing to lose - for her in the form of a massive health crisis
+ How she was able to drop in to her head, get what she needed but not stay there
+ Feeling as the key to a sensual life
+ The 30% rule that keeps Kimmy nourished as a busy mum, wife and health practitioner
+ And did I mention gratitude..…it comes up a lot.
This is a truly feel good episode that got even juicier after we the interview was over - so stay tuned half way through for the added insert where Kimmy and I are having a real heart to heart.

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